Wednesday, January 30, 2013

25 things I want to teach our daughter.

I guess I've been listy's another one!

25 things I want to teach our daughter.

1.       Stand up for yourself. Never let anyone tell you who YOU are or what YOU believe. God (with a little help from Mommy and Daddy) has given you the great capability to form your own opinions, and your own set of values and beliefs. This is the greatest gift imaginable.

2.       Know that you can ALWAYS come to Daddy and me with anything. There is NOTHING you can’t ask or tell us. We won’t judge you, and will always protect you. We will give you the best advice possible. Never be afraid to talk to us, we love you unconditionally.

3.       Don’t be quick to judge. As human beings, we tend to form opinions based on little information. Know that there is always more than meets the eye. Use that beautiful mind of yours, and dig a little deeper.

4.       If you lose your family, you lose everything. This is something my Mommy has always told me. There is NOTHING you can do that will EVER make us stop loving you, but you must be willing to love back. You have an INCREDIBLE set of families backing you up, little one. You will come to know that this is your greatest blessing.

5.       Form your own opinions on religion and spirituality. We will raise you to know that there is a loving, all powerful God. How else could Mommy and Daddy have survived on April 27th 2011? How else could you have come into our lives? You will find that organized religions don’t provide the answers for everything. Spirituality is not all black and white, nor can all the answers be found in one place. It’s up to you to decide what you will and won’t believe, just know there is something up there watching over us.

6.       Education is powerful, but not everything can be learned from a book. We are going to fill your life with as many adventures as we possibly can, teaching you tons of stuff along the way. You will find that days where you are all by yourself, discovering your world through your own eyes, will teach you more than you ever thought possible.

7.       Don’t be afraid to scream your opinions from a rooftop, but don’t be afraid to remain silent. Sometimes it’s best to say nothing.

8.       Ask questions when you have them. Ask for help when you need it. Never be afraid to admit when you don’t understand something. Don’t be half-sure. KNOW!

9.       BE SILLY! LAUGH! LOVE LIFE AND ALL THE PEOPLE IN IT! Don’t take yourself too seriously, baby. If you make a mistake, own it! If you fall down, laugh at yourself…but always have the courage to get back up!

10.   Don’t live in the past. Mommy forgets this sometimes. It’s easy to dwell on things that have happened, bad and good. If you spend too much time on what’s already happened, you’re gonna miss what’s coming up!

11.   We will argue. We will fuss. We will fight. This doesn’t mean we don’t love you. Life does not come with a set of instructions. There are going to be times when you can’t stand your father and me, and you’ll think we’re ruining your life. Your grandmother and I went through this more times than I can count. We will never do anything or say anything that isn’t for your own good. You are our daughter, little one. Above all else, we will love and protect you.

12.   Be quick to love and slow to hate. Thousands of people are going to come in and out of your life. Some will change your life, some you won’t remember the next day. Treat everyone with the kindness and respect they deserve, but guard your heart and your body with a steady mind. These are the only ones you will be given.

13.   You will understand the value of hard work. Your father and I want to give you everything under the moon, and then some. However, we will not raise you to be a brat. You will work for the things you are given, and you will appreciate them. Of course, there will be surprises along the way, but we will make sure you are a hard worker.

14.   A true friend will never turn their back on you. They will never judge you and never walk away when you are in need. You will have a lot of friends come in your life. Have the courage to know which ones are worth your time.

15.   Food is not a reward, it is a necessity. You do not live to eat, you eat to live. We will never use food as a reward system for you. We want to raise you in a healthy environment, and spend time together as an active family. This means family walks, hikes, bike rides, and tons of other fun stuff. We will have friendly competition. Loser takes out the trash.

16.   Be passionate about something! Be it sports, music, art, whatever! Pick something and love it with your whole heart. We will support that love to the fullest!

17.   Be proud, but not prideful. Own who you are, but don’t push yourself onto others.

18.   Just keep smiling. Even when times are at their worst, smile. It will make your haters hate you even more, but that just means you are doing something right. You will be surprised how much this simple gesture can make your light shine a little brighter.

19.   Pretend. Make believe. Create, imagine, dream, and do. Don’t be afraid to be your own best friend.

20.   In the words of Katt Williams (who you won’t know anything about until you are much, much older), YOU NEED HATERS. When people are hating you, it means you are doing something right! Don’t delight in their childish antics, but take their criticism as praise. If they are willing to take time out of their day to worry about what you are doing, just keep on doing it!

21.   Please, please don’t take middle school or high school too seriously. I know, at the time, it will be the only thing you know to do. I promise nothing that happens in the day to day will matter much in the long run. Have fun, make friends, and be yourself. Just…don’t take it too seriously.

22.   Don’t be afraid to be great! Never let the actions of others around you, be it your friends, family or otherwise, influence you to be any way but awesome. There is nothing wrong with achieving.

23.   Never say anything behind someone’s back that you wouldn’t be willing to say to their face. Don’t lie about someone or something someone did to make them look worse, or make you look better. Chances are, if you are doing what you know is right, you’ll be fine. If they are doing something to make them look bad, trust me, no one needs you to point it out.

24.   Never do something just because someone else wants you to do it. If you don’t want to do something, don’t EVER be afraid to say no. Stick to your convictions! If you lose a friend over it, then they weren’t a real friend to begin with.

25.   YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! Inside and out, my darling daughter, you are a ray of sunshine. I haven’t officially met you yet, but I know how special you are. How could you not be? Just look at your Daddy and me. WE LOVE YOU!

Saturday, January 26, 2013

25 things I won't miss about being pregnant...

Alright we're at 36 weeks....I think it's time for another list. :)

Here's 25 things I won't miss about being pregnant.

1. Morning sickness...."just the first trimester" my ass.

2. Random people thinking it's okay to touch my belly. Uhm, ever hear of personal space?

3. The swelling. I have sausage fingers and I'm pretty sure my feet can pass for boulders.

4. The increased blood flow. I've had more nosebleeds during this pregnancy than I have in the last 10 years.

5. Not being able to take any of the good medicine. If I could just take some aspirin or ibuprofen from time to time...

6. No wine. If you have read more than 2 of my blog entries, you know I'd kill for a glass of moscatto right now.

7. Not being able to sleep on my stomach.

8. Getting up 98503495 times a night to pee.

9. Restless leg syndrome...sadly I hear this may never go away.

10. Peeing on myself if I so much as breathe too hard...

11. Awkward sex positions.

12. People saying things like, "omg you look like you're about to pop!" "you look so uncomfortable." "Girl, I'm glad I'm not you!" Really? Thanks.

13. Getting kicked in the ribs. People keep telling me that's the one thing I'll miss, having her right there. I get that, I'm just tired of getting kicked all the time.

14. Not being able to go more than an hour away from the hospital.

15. All the doctor visits.


17. Not being able to bend over all the way.

18. Feeling like a lazy bum.

19. The hormones and crying at the site of an ASPCA commercial...

20. The pain in my hips!

21. The forgetfulness.

22. Being uncomfortable in the car...ughhh.

23. The constant worry about everything I eat or drink.

24. My extra-super-short fuse.


Don't get excited... I really don't think I'll be able to come up with 25 things I will miss about being pregnant... I guess we'll reevaluate that once Riley gets here.

Tuesday, January 22, 2013

5, 4, 3, 2, 1......

I had my 35 week check-up last Thursday. Things are looking good! Everything is right where it needs to be, so that's good. The doctor told me not to go more than an hour away from the hospital, so we didn't get to go to the beach. Boooo... :( The last thing I need is to go into labor then have to sit in a car for 6 hours while T freaks out. No thanks!

It actually snowed the day of the appointment. T and I watched movies and ate krispy kreme doughnuts. SO GOOD!

We thoroughly enjoyed our time off together. We both really needed it. We are recharged and getting through these last few weeks before D-day.

We had to reschedule our child birthing class. We were supposed to go to the 4 hour class last Saturday, but one of T's uncle's had a heart attack. Thankfully he's doing well, but I needed T's full attention and, for obvious reasons, his mind was somewhere else.

So we have our 4 hour child birthing class next Saturday, and I have a breast feeding class the following Saturday. Can't think of a more exciting way to spend those afternoons...ha! Truthfully, the information is VERY valuable, and it is important we I'm looking forward to it.

Riley has flipped! I can tell because the last few days she has been kicking the CRAP out of my ribs! A few nights ago, she got the hiccups. It was so sweet. We could feel 'em and it definitely melted her daddy's heart.

I can't wait to be a mommy! I can't wait to see what our baby girl looks like and hold her in my arms. I can't wait for the love of my life to become a father, and watch as he falls in love with this being that we created. My cup overflows.

Wednesday, January 16, 2013

35 weeks pregnant...

Wow, guys. I'm the worst blogger in the history of blogging. My bad.

We've been SUPER busy with everything baby! It's getting really close to time for our lil princess to make her grand entrance into this world! I'm so pumped!

Tony's sister threw Riley a baby shower last weekend. It was WONDERFUL! We have so much to be thankful for...especially our amazing family and friends. Riley has more than what she needs. We are truly blessed.

My proverbial "fuse" is getting shorter and shorter by the day. I cry at the drop of a hat, too. I know it's just my hormones...but it SUCKS! I'm so ready to be done with this pregnancy.

Speaking of that...are there really women out there that miss being pregnant after the baby comes? Bump that.... it's for the birds! I want our baby to get her butt here so I can dress her in all her cute outfits!

....which she has WAY too many of!

Anyways, I go back to the doctor tomorrow for a checkup. Hopefully everything is still right on schedule! I'm taking the rest of the week off...some R & R before R gets here :) see what I did there? ha...

T has the time off, too. Hopefully we can head to the beach for a few days...that is if the doctor gives us the okay to travel. I really don't think it will happen. I know I've still got several weeks before her due date....well, 5...but I just have this feeling that she's gonna come early.

Holy shit....five. more. weeks.

The heartburn is still unbelievable. It's incredibly hard to get up and down out of bed or sitting. Sex is getting more and more awkward for me...just because I'm so big and uncomfortable.

I am sleeping pretty good, except for the 92384 times I have to get up to pee every night. I usually end up sleeping on my side. The back is not comfortable. The constipation is back. YAY...

Other than that, we're doing great! I'm craving ice....just ice. It could be worse!

If I could have ANYTHING in the world right would be a huge glass  bottle of Moscatto. I would be so content with life. :)